Monday, February 2, 2009

Second Child Syndrome

I am a second child. It just hit me today that the people I really get along with tend to be the second child of their family. Every boy I've ever dated is a second child. There is a lot of research done investigating the link between birth order and personality traits. So I looked up articles on second child syndrome and see how I compare. According to this article, it seems that I am destined to be a sad, rebellious, and oftentimes ignored little girl. What do you think?

Second or middle children usually bemoan their fate as being ignored by everyone in the family. They may grow resentful or all the attention given to the oldest and youngest of the family. Second born children will often try to be the exact opposite in personality, interests, etc. from the first born child. S/he will often do almost anything for parental attention, even if that means being naughty. Parents tend to be much easier and less demanding on the second and third children. Middle or second children have to compete to be heard or noticed, and therefore crave the spotlight in other ways. They may be the loud, boisterous child in school. They may be the center of all their friends' events.

The middle or second born child often have a feeling of not belonging to the group. Being in the middle can make the second child feel insecure. They may lack the drive and motivation that is so prevalent in the first born. The second child may instead look to the first born for direction. This may also make the second born feel out of place because they aren't over achievers. Instead, the middle child usually just goes with the flow.

Second born children are often loners. They may have trouble latching on to a person in a relationship. They may also have trouble making decisions in school and in a career. Second or middle borns are usually artistic and creative, but don't work well under pressure. They have a history of starting projects and never finishing them. When choosing a career, most middle or second children would be best suited for something where they could freely express themselves, have flexible hours and frequently changing projects.

2 comments:

tiff said...

yup, pretty accurate sisi!! ;)

Tuce said...

knowing hilal i would only agree with the 1st paragraph.... and knowing you i would agree with the last paragraph....ahha! k obviously im joking... you're so not loner-ish, more analytical than creative, and you most definitely finish a project once started (i'm referring to rockaid of course!!)


unless byu has changed you, i shall object and argue that you + middle child syndromes - no-no.

(no idea where the stiffness in my writing is coming from ahah)

and fyi - im not the middle child of the fam and we got along just fiiiiiine!
=)